how would you know?

this question has got me going. to be precised, it was how would you know if you meet your perfect match? i read it from one of my son's blog and i just watched an old sharon cuneta movie in cinema 1. there was this scene that she had a soliloquy - that she had loved a lot of people and she forgot to leave some for herself. call me jologs, but i liked the movie. i did'nt even see the full length of it but i got the drift of the story somehow. she got married to her first boyfriend after college and had a son out of the union. after ten years, the husband got bored and looked for someone who excites him. thus the title "nang iniwan mo ako". she discovered more about herself and in the process became a succesful businesswoman and a single parent at the same time.
so back to the question how would you know? well, this i can tell you. there is no perfect partner or perfect relationship. my marriage is far from that but hey, i am still standing. we are going to have our silver anniversay in december but those 25 years was hard earned. compromise is the key. plus love and respect. don't let go of either one because it goes hand in hand. keep your lines of communication open and always have a dialogue. it helps. even the most inane things matter.
i met my leo when i was down and out after a big blow from my last relationship. i don't go for fair skin guys which he is, and i made it to a point that my boyfriends would be three or four inches taller than my 5'7" frame. but no, he is as tall as me. i hated capampangan so much because of a bad experience with dorm mates and he is a true blooded pampango from tarlac. i am older than him and let us say that his personality is paler compared to mine but why did we click? well, that is one mystery of the universe i don't want to decipher.. there is a saying that opposites attract but i would rather believe that we complement each other.
so dear rainier, you would know someone is for you when you are ready to throw all cautions in the wind, defy conventions and be a willing partner for that person. all the problems that would arise in the course of the relationship will be a breeze when you love absolutely and without conditions. . . . . . . . . . then you will ask what if it doesn't last? if after trying to make it work and things still doesn't patch up, then you can apply the old adage of "its better to have love and lost than to never have loved at all". or to be harsh- charge it to experience. . . . .